I came across a great article from the Kansas City Star discussing tips on how you should handle your child/children in the event they refuse to visit with you.
Obviously, children of younger years are not fully aware of the situation and will go where they are directed. Older children (maybe 12 years old or older) will be able to voice their opinion and tell the parent whether they want to go or not. The article states specifically as follows:
"...as kids get older and busier, going to see the other parent is less of a treat and more of a chore, and an "interruption" to the life they've developed. This does not mean that the kids don't care about you. It does mean that they are becoming more interested in being with their friends than in being with you. This development often hits noncustodial fathers especially hard. . . "
The article goes on to state that the process of going back and forth from one house to another can be a tedious process and a constant reminder to the kids of the divorce process.
The bottom line is: do not force the children to visit with you. You might make the children angry and they will completely resist visiting you in the future.
Here are some helpful tips to make the transition smoother:
- Allow your child to bring friends for overnight visitation.
- Make sure that you do things that are in line with your children's interests.
- Be the one to take your child to his or her various events or activities such as extracurricular activities, games, concerts and movies.
- Rearrange the visitation schedule to accommodate your child's special events.
For more information on any Orange County divorce or child custody matter, contact an Orange County divorce lawyer for more information.
Source: Divorced dads: What to do when your child does not want to see you
