Jessie Williams custody battle continues

 Jessie Williams’ hoped for an amicable divorce but it has disappeard sooner that he wanted it to. Now he finds himself in a nasty custody fight with his estranged wife.

The “Grey’s Anatomy” star filed docs saying he went above and beyond to informally handle custody issues with Aryn Drake-Lee.  Often celebrity divorces can be very difficult to resolve so that the celebrity can be an equal participant in the raising of their child with the ex. Because of the schedule of acting and filming they cannot enter into a normal custody arrangement.  But they need a schedule that fitsl their career.  Jesse filed for divorce back in April and we were told things were civil. But Jesse says it’s now turned into a legal war. Often one parent can feel entitlted to be the primary parent and doesnt want to give up control of the children.  However, it is important to give frequent and continuing contact with the children.

Jesse is asking to get more time with 3-year-old Sadie and 2-year-old Maceo, claiming Aryn only lets him see them shy of 3 hours a day and she refuses to allow sleepovers. This type of behavior often befits an alienator parent who seeks to brain wash the children away from the other parent.  It can be a significant impairment toward a normal healthy parental time with the other parent. A mental health professional often can help if it is in time and the children have not grown to old. A child custody evaluation would be the correct use of a expert.

Jesse says he rented a home less than 3 miles from Aryn’s home so he could be close to the kids. To prove he’s a hands-on dad, Jesse listed their nicknames and their favorite food — mac & cheese for “Sadie Munchkin” and “anything we put in front of ‘Mace.'” These are very cute and nice extras Jesse is implementing to get more custody time with his kids.  However, he definately needs more things to do with the children other than that.  It is important in implementing a 50/50 custody arrangement that both parties live close to each other.  Later when the child gets older it is important to live near the child’s school. So it looks like Jesse was doing the right things in order to coordinate the exchange of custody.

Jesse says Aryn’s made things impossible so he’s asking the judge to step in and issue a formal custody agreement.  Since the parties did not have a formal child custody agreement that means the parties entered into a custody agreement that was not court ordered.  Therefore the parties were in good faith trying to work out a custody arrangement without the courts involvement.  It seems that most cases involving child custody the parents want to settle the case in good faith outside of the Courthouse.  But often what happens is one party gets the short end of the stick or one party changes there position on the arrangement midway through there agreement.