Articles Posted in Family Law

In the modern day and age of the internet and facebook, instagram, twitter and all other sorts of social media outlets people have fallen into the trap of airing their dirty laundry during their divorce to the public to view and offer ill fated advice.  Do not trust the 3rd party input from social media.  Do not rely on a layman opinion regarding your divorce or family law matter that may negatively impact you during the divorce proceedings.  If you have spent the time and resources to hire a family law attorney and then head to facebook or other social media to share your intimate experiences about your divorce or all other issues regarding your dissolution of marriage then you are asking for a lot of trouble.

Studies have shown that leaking personal information to the public seeking affirmation of your personal business during a divorce can lead you down a very troubling and damaging road that cannot be undone.  Airing dirty laundry should be done to a friend on the phone but not to the public where the divorcing parties have access to your personal business that might not be so flattering to you during the divorce proceedings.  Do not undermine your lawyers efforts to effectively fight for your rights to spousal support, child support, child custody and property division as well as any custody issues you are vigorously fighting for by posting pictures of you out partying or drinking alcohol.  And do not post provoking pictures of your new boyfriend or girlfriend when you are trying to fight for your credibility in Family Law Court.

Julia Rodgers, founder of Holistic Divorce,  states “Couples should keep divorce-related issues away from the public. Doing this gives them the power to control the narrative and solidifies their case. In this age where comparison and blame-shifting is rife, couples are tempted to tell the world who’s at fault. However, doing this helps nobody.” This statement is very true.  Using social media to play the blame game and cast blame at the other spouse during the divorce only will in the end hurt you from achieving what you want to succeed from doing. That is to walk away from the divorce without losing all your assets and keep your personal life in tact.

In the recent case of Dennis O v Stephanie O. the Alaskan Superior Court heard the case of Dennis O who claimed that because his ex wife had an attorney during their child custody hearing his due process rights and self incrimination rights were violated.  Dennis alleged that his wife was able to afford an attorney.  He argued that because of his indigence that he should be appointed an attorney.  He alleged that prior Alaskan decisions had awarded counsel to parties who were indigent.  He further argued that because the ex wife alleged potentially criminal allegations against him he should be appointed free counsel.

On appeal the Alaskan appellate Court noted that in prior Alaskan cases involving child custody the courts had appointed indigent counsel for the parties because the parents were facing termination of parental rights not just a custody dispute. The appellate court further added that Due Process is a result of notice and a failure to be heard.  They compared the termination of parental rights to a custody dispute and stated that when a parent has the chance to lose their parental rights they face a much more egregious outcome if they are not appointed counsel.  In a normal custody proceeding although contentious and involves high emotions there is at no time the potential to lose your rights to your child.

The Alaskan Court further added that although fairness is a key issue that the Due Process rights of the Constitution adhere to when appointing a lawyer to a family setting not all cases fall into that parameter where appointment is necessary.  The Family law courts have many avenues for a litigant who represents themselves to avail themselves of.  There are self help centers and alternative dispute centers for the parties.  In addition, the Court can appoint a Guardian Ad litum, an attorney for the minor child and can order a child custody investigation.

Interestingly  immigration issues creep into the family areas of practice.  I am a member of the family law section of a Bar section and had a serious debate with other list mates on whether as lawyers our family law approach to life maybe is not our only calling as a lawyer.  Maybe I have been sought after for a greater cause and a much more fulfilling venture in my legal career that really has very little to do with the practice of family law, I thought.  It can be further argued that we as lawyers are constiutionally bound by the great parchment and have a greater calling to deal with other worldly issues of human suffering rather than family law topics.  The big question arises, are we as lawyers MANDATED to fight for social injustice despite our prior emphasis on areas of the practice of law we have done for so many years.  To be socially mandated by the constitution you must have had a definite epiphany in you life which ultimately drive you away from your regular practice of law and drive you to another spectrum that mandates you to fight for the rights of immigrants although legally here in the United States but have been denied entry based on the county they came from.

Is this social injustice?  Is this unfair and unreasonable  restraint on lawfully admitted immigrants?  and ultimately are these the muslim terrorists we are trying to find and not allow entry?  There are many philosophical questions which i must analyze and determine whether the constitution calls for people like me to make a socially conscious attempt to practice immigration law and leave my comfort zone to save other peoples lives and bring them back to Familys.  Because ultimately that is what is going on here .  Familys are being torn apart by arbitrary executive orders that do nothing by polarize the people living in those countries from their loved ones. Is that a Family Law issue.  An executive order enacted by the Executive Branch allegedly to protect the United States while at the same time dividing family up because these people came from countrys that are not our own.  My family law instincts tell me that something doesnt sit right with me.  When the Executive order seems more a arbitrary statement upon a type of faith I realized that it is not inclusive as this is what we expect from our President of the United States not an order that divides and terrorizes people from other countries arbitrarily.

I have concluded that yes This Presidential Executive Order is a Family law order in that it seeks to divide familys and I am a lawyer who tries to unify familys and make them share their live together.  Of Course I should fight for Justice and these people caught in the crossfires of the Trump administration and his racist approach to solving what he thinks is our safety.  Who knows if it will work? I know this people need me and they need my help. Who am I to judge the level of need another human being has toward another.  Everyone under Gods eyes is created equal.  And dont you forget it.

Another celebrity divorce in Hollywood. This time it involves actors Danny DeVito and Rhea Perlman. Rumors are swirling that they couple are divorcing because Perlman could no longer stand DeVito’s womanizing. Reports state that the couple have not been happy in “over ten years.”

The couple have been married for over thirty years, which is a long-term marriage in California, and they have three children together.

From an Orange County divorce lawyer’s perspective, DeVito will likely be paying a hefty amount of spousal support or alimony to his soon to be ex-wife. In California, the courts will retain jurisdiction over spousal support.

Less than two years after marrying Sean Covel, Alexa Vega,has filed for divorce. She cited irreconcilable differences as the reason for the filing. Covel is 36 years old while Vega is only 23.

TMZ is reporting that the two separated back on March 5. They have no minor children together.

From an Orange County divorce lawyer’s perspective, since these two do not have children, they do not have to deal with issues of child custody or child support.

After announcing their separation months ago, David Arquette has finally filed the Petition for dissolution of marriage from Courteney Cox Arquette. In the court documents filed in the Los Angeles Superior Court, Arquette is requesting joint legal and joint physical custody of the parties’ daughter, Coco. He is also requesting that property rights be determined.

From an Orange County divorce lawyer’s perspective, interestingly, there is no mention on how he would like relief for child support or spousal support. Additionally, according to the petition, the parties were married for a long term marriage of 12 years, 6 months so if Arquette would to request spousal support from Cox, he would be entitled to same indefinitely unless of course, they agreed to a different amount, time period or waive it completely.

Most likely the big issue here is how the couple will share joint physical custody of their daughter, Coco.

Marc Anthony has filed for a Los Angeles County divorce from his soon to be ex-wife, Jennifer Lopez. Filing under his legal name, Marco Muniz, cited irreconcilable differences and requests joint legal and joint physical custody of the parties’ 4 year old twins, Max and Emme. Additionally, Anthony specified a “TBD” as the date of separation.

The couple appear to be very cordial in the public eye as they work together promoting their television talent show “Q’Viva! The Chosen.” Let’s hope they can amicably work out are reasonable settlement to their divorce.

From an Orange County divorce lawyer’s perspective, the parties will have to resolve issues pertaining to child custody, child visitation, child support, spousal support, property division and payment of attorney fees and costs.

As Peter Facinelli’s career takes off with the Twilight movies, it causes much stress and tension for his personal life as he just filed for dissolution of marriage from Jennie Garth. The documents were recently filed in the Los Angeles Superior Court and Facinelli cites irreconcilable differences as the reason for the split. Facinelli cites a date of separation of January 1, 2012 (which was 3 months prior to the public annoucement).

Regarding child custody and visitation, Facinelli is seeking joint legal and joint physical custody of the parties’ three minor children.

Jennie Garth also filed her Response to the Los Angeles County divorce petition. Garth is also requesting joint legal and joint physical custody of the children and that her maiden name be restored.

This is a strange story. What mother in her right mind would sell her child? Apparently, Kenia Quiala Bosque, age 30, tried to sell one of her 4 children to an aquaintance for $7,000. Bosque stipulated that she put her kids in danger by trying to sell one of them. She did this to avoid a dependency trial. As a result, the children will now remain in the care of their father.

The case is not over for Bosque though. She still faces criminal charges that she tried to sell her youngest son to an acquaintance for $7,000 in December.

Judge Mari Sampedro-Iglesia accepted a plea deal worked out in the juvenile justice building hallways among attorneys for both parents and the Department of Children and Families. In the deal, Bosque agreed that “under severe emotional distress [she] made an empty threat to exchange her child for a sum of money, that placed her children in imminent risk of harm.”

So, its a new year and a new you! You may be going through a Los Angeles County or Orange County divorce or are contemplating getting a divorce. Going through a divorce is an emotional and stressful time not only for the parties involved but for the children, if there are any. Here are some stress release tips on coping during such a painful period.

1) Get a breathe of fresh air. Take a walk through a mall or a park. It will remind you that there is life after an Orange County or Los Angeles County divorce.

2) Get your yoga on! I turned to yoga about 5 years ago when I suffered severe lower back pain from lifting weights. I started practicing yoga heavily in April of 2009 about 5-6 times a week to help with the “mental” stress of being a lawyer. Now, I’m an addict! I love practicing yoga on a daily basis to clear the mind, strengthen the body, challenge the body and most importantly…. to just “be”.